1) You want to set your relationship or marriage up for success
Couples counseling isn’t just for married couples. You can go to couples counseling to help improve your relationship at any stage. In fact, it’s a great way to potentially prevent future problems. Whether you’re in a dating relationship, you’re engaged and want to participate in premarital counseling, or you’re in the early stages of your marriage, couples counseling can help set your relationship up for success.
2) You need help communicating calmly
All couples have conflict. It’s normal, natural, and it can be functional. The idea is not to have zero conflict at all, but it’s about communicating through conflict in a way that you can each be heard and hear one another. Couples counselors will be able to help you identify areas where you’re getting stuck, potentially leading to escalation, and offer you tools for working through conflict differently to de-escalate and have more productive conversations.
3) Your sex life could use a boost
Sex is an important part of any romantic relationship. When there’s a disconnect in the bedroom, it may result in one or both partners feeling dissatisfied or even cause conflict. Going to couples counseling for sexual issues can help you each move from a place of disconnection, anxiety, and/or hurt to a place of healing, connection, and intimacy.
4) You have frequent arguments about the same topic
Finding yourselves in a place where you argue about the same things over and over again can be exhausting and frustrating. Having these arguments about the same problems typically means you need to create a dialogue with one another and eventually come to a compromise that honors each of your needs. There may be a deeper meaning behind each person’s position on the issue that needs to be explored.
5) You’re aren’t connecting with your partner day-to-day
Over time, you may feel that you’re growing apart or have a lack of meaningful connection. Couples counseling can help you explore the reasons behind this. You’ll be able to identify and discuss needs that are important to each of you, meanings behind certain gestures, and explore ways of implementing regular practices to help strengthen your friendship and connection.
6) You’re having trouble understanding one another
Learning to see one another’s perspectives when there’s a disagreement is a huge component of couples counseling. Working to understand one another can be difficult, so it can be helpful to have some guidelines or outside perspective to help you communicate this understanding and offer empathy and validation to one another.